In the Philippines, karaoke is a national pastime and we’re all invited to sing along.

Before my first trip to the Philippines, I worried this disconnect might make me feel isolated.

From there, I headed to Palawan andSiargao.

A woman swimming in the Philippines

Acacia Gabriel swimming in the blue waters of the Philippines.Credit:Acacia Gabriel/Travel + Leisure

I have always loved singing and playing guitar.

Making music opened me up to unexpected sidequests.

These intimate options broke through the exhausting small talk and allowed for true conversation.

Music being played in the Philippines

Live filipino music being played.Acacia Gabriel/Travel + Leisure

When you play a tune with others, you connect through a harmony that goes far beyond borders.

If anyone complimented my voice, the locals would say, Of course she can sing.

While this experience provided me with much-needed clarity and validation, everyone finds themselves in their own ways.

Philippines ocean

The blue ocean waters of the Philippines.Acacia Gabriel/Travel + Leisure

Perhaps its an old family recipe for lumpia or a fondness of the ocean.

The best we can do is approach the cultures of our families with openness, curiosity, and authenticity.

They inspire me to seek connection in the spontaneous and unexpected.

Playing music in the philippines

Acacia Gabriel learning to play the guitar while on her trip.Acacia Gabriel/Travel + Leisure

And, Filipino or not, you are always invited to sing along.

Boats in the Philippines

Boats docked in the waters.Acacia Gabriel/Travel + Leisure